A Lesson in Love in One Day
I went to Lima to go dancing on a Halloween night and as I stood there, this woman asked me what I do because I look so fit, and I told her I teach Yoga. So this woman flops down on my chair, whoosh, so fast, she must have drunk too much, and she proceeds to slowly tell me she got separated from her friends. She was very apologetic even in her state, she was aware of her true self. She was very respectful and conscious that she had taken over my seat without asking permission. I told her that she may sit for as long as she wants. Her hands now covering her face from embarrassment. I told her that she would feel better if she rubbed her “third eye” gently, the space between her eyebrows. She felt better and seemed to calm down, still aware of her actions, still apologizing, she said find me on Facebook, she gave me her name, and I said I would.
Westerners have this concept that when you say you practice or teach Yoga, the immediate reaction is “Ahh.. you do those difficult poses” it’s so hard for me to do those, I want to though,” and “good for you.”
And yet the Asanas (Poses) is only one of the components of Yoga.
From Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras, there are two aspects of the spiritual practice:
Abhyasa – practice
Vairagya – renunciation
There are Four Aims of Life:
Dharma – observation of spiritual discipline
Artha – creation of a balanced life
Kama- enjoyment of the fruits of one’s labor
Moksa – liberation
The Five Afflictions:
Avidya – spiritual ignorance
Asmita – price
Raga – desire
Dvesa – aversion
Abhinivesa – fear of death
Then the supreme hierarchy is The Eight-Limb Path of Yoga. And if I show this to you in a diagram, just imagine the spokes on a wheel, eight of them meeting from inward to outward completing a circle, a circle of life.
The Eight Limb Path of Yoga are:
1) Yamas – the Five Moral Restraints –
a. Ahimsa – non violence
b. Satya – truthfulness
c. Asteya – non stealing
d. Brahmacarya –moderation
e. Aparigraha – non hoarding
2) Niyamas –the Five Observances
a. Sauca – purity
b. Santosa – contentment
c. Tapas- zeal, austerity
d. Svadhyaya – self-study
e. Isvara-pranidhana – devotion to a higher power
3) Asana – Postures
4) Pranayama – Mindful Breathing
5) Pratyahara – Turning Inward
6) Dharana – Concentration
7) Dhyana – Meditation
8) Samadhi – Union of the Self with Object of Meditation
This is just a short lesson of what we do not see as Yoga in the West. As you can see there’s much more to Yoga, a living breathing life of its own woven into this living of life. As for me, Yoga is the study of balance, the study of love, and the living of Love in action.
This past week certainly had been a lesson in love for me. I heard someone say (and I can’t remember who said it) that “you are nobody until someone loves you”, and I am not saying I agree with this or not.
It certainly hits home for some of us who are having challenges in their current relationship, especially for me this week.
There are times when the one you love is distant. There are those times when you just want that special someone to hold your hand, hug you, and kiss you, or call you, or maybe text you. And if it is not forthcoming- it could devastate you, depending on how low you have put yourself into the emotional path, spiraling downward. This has been a lesson that I have worked through and certainly another revelation in the study of human emotions.
Look no further, the answer is always within you.
I read several books a week, most of which are second, or third, even fourth reading of the same books. All of which contribute to my understanding of why I am here in this time space reality. Knowing that I agreed to be here doesn’t help much when you have the need to be loved.
Keeping my mind focused in the moment. It’s our home, to live life in the moment, experiencing them all, so we may know what we don’t want and get closer to what we want.
So, what am I wanting? I thought I needed someone to love me and I have the urge for that someone to show affection for me in that moment of need. And really, the truth, after much contemplation, is that I have become out of alignment to who I truly am. What I forget in these moments of misalignment, is that, I become attached to expecting something, from someone who has no idea what I am wanting because they have their own emotional guidance system, their own thoughts, and they are creating for themselves first and I could never and cannot ever control that. It’s in these moments of need, a false need that you stop your spiritual growth.
Every relationship, every encounter, with a human being must be holy. I must keep my eyes above me, in God’s eye view, look around and see who is with me and celebrate with them taking nothing personally, removing from my consciousness and vocabulary the words struggle, need, worry, unmet expectations, alone-ness.
The easiest way to do this is to wrap our mind into the thinking that whatever we do, it must be in a holy space, in a sacred way, and in the celebration of life, – my life and yours.
A good friend sent me a chain email. The story goes and I am paraphrasing, that this man was gathering his wife’s belonging, clothing and found a package especially wrapped, a silk underwear, he had given her 8 or 9 years ago, with his wife’s handwriting “save for a special day”. He thought it was appropriate as he was preparing a box for his wife to take to her funeral, his wife had just died. This changed the way he lives now, living in the moment, doing things now, not later, working less hours, and enjoying life more.
The moment we become out of alignment of who we truly are, whole and perfect, strong and powerful, abundant and prosperous, loving and beloved, harmonious, at peace and so very, very happy, we become disconnected from our Source.
What are you wanting? The question must be, who are you waiting for?
The answer is “we are the ones we’ve been waiting for”. We are the answer to all our questions.
Really, truly, we keep looking outside ourselves, really, truly, the reality is we are our own soul mate and we need look no further. When you have become out of alignment with your own soul mate, is when we go outside for our answers. Our answers are always within us.
A lesson of Love –
Love thyself with all your heart and mind just because you exist and nothing more than that.
Love Live, Live Love
PS. I want to share with you the two declarations below to replace an old belief system. My Soul Mate and I met at a Millionaire Mind Seminar by T Harv Eker held in a hotel at Tysons Corner, Virginia. We took the declarations and affirmations very seriously and I gleaned the first one below as my own. The second one is from the teachings of Abraham Hicks, I consider their book Ask and it Is Given, as my bible on the Law of Attraction.
These are great declarations especially if you are having doubts and challenges with your current relationships, so make it your stable datum.
1. Everything is neutral and nothing has meaning except for the meaning I give it.
2. Nothing is more important than that I be happy! I repeat it again, Nothing is more important than that I be happy!
Stable datum – Until one selects one datum, one factor, one particular in a confusion of particles, the confusion continues. The one thing selected and used becomes the stable datum for the remainder.
You can read the whole write up on this at:
I chose to use this doctrine because until you decide what is right for you or until you decide what makes you happy, your turmoil continues and your life is ruled by that turmoil, until you decide to be in control of your inner dialogue. And this stable datum need not be the right one because you can change them as they become applicable to you or more in harmony with the peace and happiness you desire.
The declarations I suggested above will put you in a harmonious peaceful path. If you are given the choice between being right or being happy, which would you choose?
I choose, I would rather be happy.
Reference from Wikipedia on Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras:
The Yoga Sūtras of Patañjali are 196 Indian sūtras (aphorisms) that constitute the foundational text of Rāja Yoga. Yoga is one of the six orthodox āstika schools of Hindu philosophy, which, according to the Yogatattva Upanishad, is divided into four forms – Mantrayoga, Layayoga, Hathayoga and Rājayoga – the last of which is the highest (or royal) practice.
An aphorism is an original thought, spoken or written in a laconic (concise) and memorable form. Aphorism literally means a “distinction” or “definition”, from Greek ἀφορισμός (aphorismós), which is from ἀπό (apo) and ὁρίζειν (horizein), meaning “from/to bound”. The term was first used in the Aphorisms of Hippocrates. The oft-cited first sentence of this work (see Ars longa, vita brevis) is:
“Life is short, art long, opportunity fleeting, experience deceptive, judgment difficult.”
The term was later applied to maxims of physical science, then statements of all kinds of philosophical, moral, or literary principles. In modern usage an aphorism is generally understood to be a concise statement containing a subjective truth or observation cleverly and pithily written.
Another great book to read is Meditations from the Mat by Rolf Gates and Katrina Kenison. Even if you do not practice Yoga, Rolf Gates’ daily reflections on the path of Yoga is Oh, so inspiring!
I cite many books on all my postings and short stories because I consider them all part of my journey to attaining a quiet mind and a blissful joyful and grateful spirit. I do want to also emphasize that these books will not come alive until you actually need them and you must know that you will attract them They will appear in your reality as your desires build up within you. Otherwise, they are just another book on the shelf of Barnes and Noble and appear in your bookshelf un-opened. But no worries, they will come alive, as you desire change in your life. There will be other books, evidences, people, opportunities, events, circumstances that you will be attracting in alignment with your intentions. Even if the events and people come before you and they are not quite exactly what you wish and want, – Rejoice anyway, and say “God, you are getting close, Thank you, Thank You, Thank You.” Remember the two declarations above – remove any judgment from your mind, stop categorizing, naming, labeling anything and everything and throw away any score cards you are keeping, “Everything is neutral, Nothing has meaning except the meaning I give it”, only live in the moment, and keep in mind “Nothing is more important than that I be Happy, Nothing is more important than that I be Happy.” Be in constant alignment with who you are, happy and blissful, and the path will unfold before your very eyes. Because what is true for you is true for you.
I wish you safe travel, smooth flowing traffic, great parking spaces, attracting harmonious relationships and experiences of Unending, Unspeakable, Outrageous Joy.
Love Live, Live Love